My Body is Fantasy

I grew up feeling that my body wasn’t valuable, beautiful, or worthy because I was fat. Today, I stand proud in my body. When I look in the mirror, I find beauty in every curve, dimple, and scar. So much so that it’s almost hard to recall what influences made me feel so inferior and ashamed of my body as I was growing up. But when I hear about companies like Victoria’s Secret telling the mass media that fat bodies cannot be a part of their “perfect fantasy,” the emptiness of feeling unworthy starts to feel all to familiar. When I was a child and a teenager, there were no brands that created a “fantasy” that revolved around plus size bodies. And while Victoria’s Secret’s statement about fat bodies not being good enough or sexy enough to walk in their fashion show may have shook me years ago, it was easily shrugged off because I have brands like Parfait Lingerie that lead the way for bodies of all shapes, sizes, and colors.

And because of brands like Parfait Lingerie, I see my body as fantasy—not like the watered down fantasy that has been forced upon us since our existence, telling us that we aren’t good enough, and that we never will be. But a fantasy that I hold within myself. No matter how my body looks or how much it jiggles, it radiates fantasy and beauty. I create these feelings within myself with the help of clothing and lingerie that make me feel sexy and radiant, like this Cora lingerie set in nude from Parfait Lingerie. When I slip on the Cora Bikini and the Cora Unlined Longline Bra, my worries, insecurities, and the criticisms of the outside world fall off of me. If you’ve been a fan of Natalie in the City, you know how much fashion plays into my confidence. I began channeling confidence through clothing when I was 8. While nothing in the juniors’ section would fit me right, I was able to find styles and pieces that gave me this sense of pride. Fashion acted as a shield or armor from the bullies who would mock me for my weight and size, and it’s exactly how I protect myself from baseless comments from CEOs who are narrow-mindedly leading companies that have a stance that is both outdated and unrelatable to consumers today—most of whom are size 16 or larger. This Cora lingerie set is my safe haven from hate. I wanted to take this opportunity to tell you that you are good enough, and for every brand or bully out there who wants to tell you that you aren’t, there are a hundred more allies like Parfait Lingerie that have your back and see you for the radiant human you are.

Shine, baby, shine! 

SIZING INFO: I am wearing a size 3X in the Cora Bikini, which is one size larger than my usual size, but they fit perfectly. I’m a wearing a size 44D in the Cora Unlined Longline Bra, which is one cup size larger than my usual size, and it fits perfectly!