Beyond the Little Black Dress

I’m always looking for an edgy dress that I can wear to a formal event, and I feel like my search might be over. It’s a given that I have to dress to impress when I attend a blogging event. But even when I have a work function, I want to look professional while incorporating my individual style into the look.
And this Victoria dress from SIKA Collection’s Spring/Summer 2018 line, masters that mix between me and formal wear. I absolutely love the details in this dress from the wrap to the cold shoulder and the tassels around the waist. All of these features make this little black dress so intricate and unique. This dress retails for about $250, which is pretty expensive for my budget. Mindy from Mindy City Beauty let me borrow this gorgeous dress, so shout out to her! So I have included some more budget-friendly dresses for you to shop in the widget below!
SIZING INFO: I am wearing a size 18 in this Victoria dress, which is my usual size, but it runs a little large. I could totally fit into a size 16.
Sharing My Hair Secrets
Finding a good hairstylist that you can trust can be harder than finding a soul mate. And when you do finally find that hairstylist, aren’t they actually like a soul mate? I’m being serious! My hair is one of the only things I have ALWAYS, CONSISTENTLY loved about myself, which is why I take finding a stylist so seriously. I found Anastasia Kim in the fall of 2015 while I was on a quest to find the best hairstylist in Chicago. I was scrolling through hashtags on Instagram when her rainbow-colored and perfectly-balayaged feed caught my eye. “OK,” I thought to myself, “This girl can do my hair.”
Fast forward three years later, and not only is Anastasia making major moves and creating new styles, but shes joined forces with Antoinette Avila—SIDE NOTE: Antoinette is a fabulous plus size diva just like us! Together, Anastasia and Antoinette are the dream team of hair and makeup! Don’t believe me? Scroll down for the before and after photos, hunny! And some of you are probably wondering, “But can she handle my type of hair?” YES. Anastasia majored in trichology (the science and study of hair structure), which means she understands what all ethnicities need when it comes to hair cuts, coloring, and treatments.
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| Before with Anastasia! (This is 11 month grow out!) |
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| After with Antoinette! |
I get so many emails, comments, and questions about my hair regimen, and how I got my hair so blonde and perfectly balayaged. Well, in short, the answer is Anastasia. But I have teamed up with Anastasia and Antoinette to get answers to all of your burning hair questions like, “How fast can I go full blonde?” and “What’s the truth? Does trimming my hair more often make it grow faster?”
Natalie: When a client comes to you with their hair goals and inspiration, how do you approach their vision and get them to trust you?
Anastasia: One word, “COMMUNICATION.” I believe it is a constant process of working together to create an understanding. I am upfront and honest about what is possible in a single session and I’m also transparent about what the journey looks like moving forward. I will not over-promise and under-deliver because we thoroughly discuss the shade and style of color we are going for. Inspiration photos truly help me understand what a client is looking for, but I also want to recommend my professional opinion. At the end of the day, I am here to serve my clients and therefore delivering their hair goals! A positive attitude and upfront honesty go really far in building trust in a stylist-client relationship.
Natalie: When you go to get your hair done, should you arrive to the salon with dirty hair or freshly washed hair? I’ve heard dirty….am I right?
Antoinette: Clean hair is the best because the color doesn’t have to break through the dirt and oil. Having clean hair before a color can give you an even result. The formulas for chemical services are not as harsh as they were in the past, so while this may have been true long ago, it’s not anymore!
Natalie: What are some common hair myths you ladies hear a lot, and what’s the truth?
Anastasia: Trims make hair grow longer and faster. In reality, it makes hair grow more healthy. This is because the split ends are dusted from the bottom ensuring smooth cuticle all the way up the strand. Think of rope fraying. When it frays from the bottom, it unravels all the way up. The same goes for hair. It frays at the bottom and then splits all the way up making the hair brittle and frizzy. Another is that keratins damage the hair. The new formulas by John Amico (what I use) are formaldehyde-free and healthy for the hair! They come in three strengths: orange, smoothie, and chocolate—depending on the needs a client’s hair type. It is completely safe with hair color and improves the overall shine, health, vibrancy, and strength of the hair!
Natalie: What is your advice for women or men who want to go full blonde, like me?
Anastasia: Get ready for a journey. The best way to achieve your perfect shade of blonde is to visit for multiple sessions. This maintains the integrity of your hair and overall health. Every four to six weeks, you should visit for a toning session and use purple shampoo regularly at home!
Antoinette: Being patient is key!
Natalie: Okay! Fair enough, but what about those who want rainbow hair?
Anastasia: Rainbow hair is HIGH MAINTENANCE! These colors are almost always semi-permanent and therefore fade with each hair wash. Every four to six weeks a color re-boost is necessary.
Natalie: What are some tips you have for maintaining healthy hair?
Anastasia: Regular treatments are vital. Once a week, I recommend Biominoil by John Amico. It comes in a glass vile and does complete wonders for the hair by restoring the pH and depositing the minerals the hair is composed of. Over time, washing, weather, and abuse to the hair can cause brittle ends and damage. Treatments actually restore hair to it’s natural state. Another is never sleep on wet hair. Hair is most fragile when wet and will break from friction on a pillow. For more tips come check me out at the salon! I have so many more to share!
Antoinette: Make sure to use a heat protector on your hair with all hot tools! For our blondes, use wear a silk scarf while you sleep or a silk pillow case and keep up with regular trims!
Natalie: Since it’s summertime, do we need to protect our hair in the sun? If so, how?
Antoinette: When you are out in the sun, it’s crucial for you to protect your hair from UV rays. The sun can fade your color quickly. I recommend applying the Bio Complex Eleven Fluid from John Amico before hitting the beach!
Natalie: How does your pricing range?
Anastasia: My rates are fully dependent on length, density, hair goal desired, processes needed and the state of hair a client comes into the salon with (visit anastasiakim.com for starting prices and service details).
Natalie: Do you have any exciting events or news coming up around the salon?
Anastasia: We are constantly growing as a team at Mane Space Salon Loft. We are progressive group of licensed stylists who have individual goals, as well as a collective vision. There are various stylist educational events coming up at Row 21 in the South Loop featuring several top Chicago hairstylists. Also, in 2019, I will be traveling every month to different salons across the country to educate other stylists on my techniques and color formulas.
Ready to treat your hair to the attention it has always deserved? Book your appointment with Anastasia and Antoinette here: anastasia.glossgenius.com or simply text: 224 456 6115
Curves, Front and Center
Another day, another sexy dress! The first time I wore this dress out, I felt like a goddess. The faux leather material and the ruching detail made my curves pop, and gave me the ultimate confidence boost. I WAS UNTOUCHABLE. But when I saw these photos for the first time, I’ll be honest, my opinion of the dress completely changed. Why though? Was it the lighting? The way I was posed? Either way, it didn’t matter. You ever take a picture of yourself and love it, but when someone else takes a photo of you, you can’t believe what you are seeing? Happens all the time. And maybe that’s just how I feel about this dress.
I wore this dress (minus the kimono) out to the club one night, and I swear it was the baddest look I’ve ever owned. So maybe I will stick to wearing out at night—lol. I got this Hit List Leather Dress from Fashion Nova Curve, and I decided to add in this On The Block Kimono to the look, which has since sold out (here is something similar: Pinstripe Duster Cardigan) The ruching detail on this dress makes the garment hug every curve just right, and I feel super sexy in this look. I am dubbing this dress the perfect outfit for all of my nighttime summer adventures! Do you love a form fitting dress? I actually prefer it as opposed to a looser look because I feel much more confident when my curves are front and center! Ya know?
I’m Not a Floral Girl, But…
I might make an exception for this plus size floral dress, though. I got the dress in my Dia & Co. box a couple of months ago, and it stopped me dead in my tracks—not in a good way. I almost never wear a girly, traditional floral print, so I was a little confused as to why this ended up in my box. I happened to be live streaming my unboxing on Dia & Co.’s Facebook page, and I don’t think I hid the fact that I was disappointed. Immediately, viewers were commenting, “Try it on!” So, I did. And honestly, I was quite surprised. Although the pattern wasn’t me, I couldn’t deny how well the dress fit me and how it accentuated my curves.
With that being said, I gave it a shot. And the people in my life—especially my boyfriend—love the breath of fresh air this dress brings to my dark, monochromatic wardrobe. I’ll admit, I feel really girly, fun, and beautiful in the dress, and I may be more open-minded about sporting floral prints in the near future. But shall we get onto the details? Like I said, I found this plus size dress in one of my Dia & Co. boxes—you can learn more about Dia & Co. here: NOT A DRILL: I’M WEARING A TUTU. This Jude Flare Sleeve Floral Dress is actually from Collection by Bobeau’s B Curvy plus size line. Another detail that I really love is the flowiness and shape that the bell sleeves bring to the dress. I could definitely see myself wearing this dress to a summer wedding, brunch, a casual day out, or a nice dinner. Here’s to trying to incorporate more florals into my wardrobe this summer! If you’re a floral dress kind of gal, and you happen to love the way this Collection by Bobeau dress looks, check out other floral dresses from that brand in the shop widget below!
SIZING INFO: I am wearing a size 1X in this dress, which is one size smaller than my usual size, and it fits perfectly. I have never tried any other articles of clothing from Collection by Bobeau, so I’m not sure if the entire plus size line runs large or not.
Summer Days
Out of all of the garments that I have ever posted on this blog, this might be my favorite one ever. Yeah, I said it. What’s not to love about this dress? The sleeves are so fun. The color is vibrant and head turning—and it happens to be my fave color of the season. The ribbed material hugs my curves so nicely. And lastly, the short fit makes me feel super sexy. I feel like every girl needs a dress in her closet that makes her feel like a bombshell as soon as she puts it on. And I’m adding this one to my bombshell list: LACE-UP SUEDE DRESS | DANGEROUS CURVES AHEAD | TROPICAL GODDESS | FALL HUES
By now, you’re probably like, “OK GIRL BUT WHERE IS THE DRESS FROM.” So let me get to that. I found this Brigid Ruffle Dress on Fashion Nova Curve when I was scanning every single store for a beautiful red dress. If you read this blog post: HOT DAMN, you know that I had my sights set on a red-colored dress that I could feel scorching hot in all summer. This dress wasn’t exactly what I envisioned, but as soon as I saw it, I put it in my cart and never looked back. The sleeves are what got me so excited, but they also make the dress costume-y, which makes it difficult to wear this dress on any given Saturday night out. Or maybe I am just over thinking it, and I should wear the damn dress because life is short and this piece deserves to be seen.
I know this dress is everything, but it’s sold out since I received it. So I have included a couple of similar dresses for you in the shop widget below. You can also sign up for the wait list if Fashion Nova decides to restock it! If it is in stock, and you’re able to score it, be sure to use the code “natinthecity” for 15% off your purchase!
Want to see this look in action? Watch my Fashion Nova Curve Haul on YouTube: FASHION NOVA CURVE IS TAKING OVER MY CLOSET
SIZING INFO: I am wearing a size 2x in the Brigid Ruffle Dress, which is my usual size, and it fits perfectly! This dress is made out of stretchy material so it does stretch!
Girls Just Wanna Have Fun
My best friend Jennifer got me this adorable Fujifilm Instamax Mini 9 instant Polaroid camera for Christmas, and I have been using it a lot lately. It’s kind of refreshing to take a photo and have it appear right before your eyes—un-retouched, un-altered, and just perfectly natural. Plus, the camera is super cute, just like this outfit.
I’m wearing the White Tie Front Frill Sleeve Blouse from Pretty Little Thing’s Plus collection, and I paired it with the Nude Frill Hem Midaxi Skirt for a super girly and playful look. I took a couple of selfies and my photographer, Rorie Raimondi, caught it all!
SIZING INFO: I am wearing a size 16 in the Nude Frill Hem Midaxi Skirt, which is my usual size, and it fits perfectly! I am wearing a size 16 in the White Tie Front Frill Sleeve Blouse, which is my usual size, and it fits perfectly!
Plus Size Casual Outfit

Stripes. My go-to, these days. As you probably already know, I’ve been fond of lines lately, and this striped kimono is no exception. For me, stripes add such a bold edge to any look—especially high contrast or black and white stripes.
Take this look for example. Without this In Line Striped Kimono from Fashion Nova Curve, this Heart Sigh Skirt and Top Set would be super basic and boring. The top and skirt are made of a stretchy, thin black material, and they are really comfortable. I could either chill in this set all day or dress it up like I did for this look. You know how I love versatility! While these two pieces go so well together, I love that I can mix and match them with my entire closet. GOOD NEWS: You can get this look for 20% off with the code “natinthecity”! I topped off this look for a day out with my all-time favorite Circular Tote Bag that I scored from Anthropologie. The bag adds a pop of color to the monochromatic look, and I swear, the bag gives any look I pair it with an ultra cool vibe.
Are you sick of the stripes yet? Cause I’m not!
SIZING INFO: I am wearing a size 2X in the Heart Sigh Skirt and Top Set, which is my usual size, and the set fits perfectly. However, the set is a little see through and made of very thin material. I am wearing a size 3X in the In Line Striped Kimono, which is one size larger than my usual size, and it fits perfectly. I sized up because I wanted a looser fit, but the kimono runs a little oversized anyways so I would have been fine with the 2X!
Plus Size Sweater and Jeans
I’ve been seeing athletic wear make a huge jump into mainstream fashion beyond just the athleisure trend of sweatpants with heels or full on tracksuits. These jeans are a perfect example of my observation. I don’t own anything like them, and given the chance a couple of years ago, I may have been like “Ew I would never wear those. Ever.” But here we are, and I’m in love.
When I saw these Luna Side Tape Slim Pants, I was instantly attracted to the pants. Y’all know I love a good destroyed denim look. I found them on Simply Be, and decided to pair them with this adorable blue Eyelet Side Seam Jumper, which is also from Simply Be. The jumper has sold out on the site, but here is something similar: Glamorous Bell Sleeve Lace Up Sweater. This look is playful, sporty, and chic—and the pants are totally on trend. If you love this Simply Be look, you can score it for 50% off with the code SimplyBe54. You’re welcome! I have also curated a bunch of side tape denim in the shop widget below if you want to partake in the trend!
SIZING INFO: I am wearing a size 16 in the Luna Side Tape Slim Pants, which is my usual size, and the pants fit well. I feel like they might be a little baggy on me in the lower leg region, so if I could order them again, I would order a size 14. I am wearing a size 16/18 in the Eyelet Side Seam Jumper, which is my usual size, and it fits perfectly.
Plus Size Summer Outfit

You’d think I’m obsessed with stripes or something, which is funny because up until a couple of years ago, I avoided stripes at all costs. People would tell me “bigger women shouldn’t wear stripes because it makes them look wider,” or “They aren’t flattering for your figure.” And I believed them, just like so many other curvy women who still stay away from stripes. However, the pattern has been making a huge statement in fashion recently, and I am living for all of it. If you hate the stripy posts, you may want to stay away for a while, because this won’t be the last time you’ll see them on this blog!
I might have a thing for striped pants. They are so bold, fun, and give any look an adventurous and chic feel. I love how the vertical stripes also elongate my short little legs. These Jazmine Stripe Pants are so cute, and I love the colors. When I wear stripes I try to stick to a monochromatic looks so that the outfit isn’t too busy. But I made an exception for these muted earth and navy tones because they add a new color palette to my closet without being too overpowering or busy. Since summer is starting to show itself, I paired the pants with this fun and sexy Vikkie Ruffle Top from Fashion Nova Curve. This look will definitely be on rotation this summer. I topped off the look with my green circle bag that I got from Zara a couple of months ago. If you are obsessed with stripe pants, too, I included striped pants of all colors in the shop widget below! Just click the arrows to browse through and find your perfect pair. If you love this look, you can get it 20% off with the code: natinthecity.
SIZING INFO: I am wearing a size 2X in the Jazmine Stripe Pants, which is my usual size, and the pants fit perfectly. The pants do not stretch at all. So if you are looking for a more comfortable fit, then I would size up to get a looser fit. I am wearing a size 3X in the Vikki Ruffle Top, which is a size larger than my usual, and it fits nicely. This top runs true to size, but I ordered a size larger because I didn’t know it was a crop top. Whoops!
Modeling Confidence
I have been dropping little confidence tips on the blog lately! Have you been keeping up? Somedays turning on my confidence is as easy as flipping a light switch, and other days it’s not that simple. Lately, a sure-fire way for me to feel an instant rush of confidence has been to sport lingerie around my apartment or get dressed up just for me. I have a couple of different looks that I reach for when I need a sexy confidence boost. Parfait Lingerie’s Adriana Unlined Babydoll in Black paired with the Adriana Bikini is one of my favorites to lounge around in because it’s comfortable, but still makes me feel like a vixen.
Where does your confidence come from?
You may be searching back to the early traces of fearlessness you felt as a child, or maybe a pivotal moment you recently had that encouraged you to accept and love yourself. Through the years of my journey through self-love, I’ve learned that the perception we have our bodies starts way before we are even brought into the world. Our mothers, grandmothers, and great grandmothers have paved a way for us and, most times, have directly influenced how we view ourselves. Growing up, my mom was always supportive of me and wanted nothing but the best for her daughter. My parents put me into sports, encouraged me to live a healthy life (even if that meant being the food police here and there), and gave me the best advice they could. As I became a young adult, and eventually, started a life of my own, I realized that my parent’s remarks about my body and how I should eat still rang loudly in my head, influencing my own perception of my body. When I noticed these voices, I became a little resentful toward my parents, as body image is something I struggle with on a daily basis. But what helped me overcome that resentment was recognizing that my parents were not only my parents, but that they were their own individuals with their own desires and perspectives. As a child, I had a front row seat to my mother’s journey of accepting her body. She was a mother of two with her own battles, dreams, and goals, and aside from the time she spent with us, she worked full time—and then some. I can’t imagine that it was easy raising me and my brother, let alone taking time to appreciate herself. I emulated my mom and the way she spoke about her body because I looked up to her. While I have outgrown that perception, I have tried to help her grow, too. We talk about our bodies a lot, and it’s not always an easy breezy walk in the park—there are still things we don’t understand or accept. But as a woman who has found love within herself and for her reflection, I try to model that to my mom to inspire her to embrace herself, too.
Do you have someone in your life who projects their own insecurities onto you? Or someone who would greatly benefit from seeing someone like them be confident? Maybe it’s you who needs someone to model confidence to them…and that’s okay. No matter where you are at on your confidence journey, start by looking to yourself as a person who embodies confidence and embraces change. It may sound like a difficult task, but I have created a guide and workbook to help you build confidence step by step, every day. You can download this free guide at BeYourOwnGoals.com. This guide will help you build a positive affirmations list that is completely customized to you and your journey. You will also get a look my very own list of affirmations that I recite to myself every day before I leave my apartment. These affirmations help me create and take charge of my own narrative, confidence, and emotions.
It’s important to remember that before we help others, we must help ourselves.
SIZING INFO:I am wearing a Size 42D in the Adriana Unlined Babydoll in Black, which is one cup size larger than my usual size, and the teddy fits pretty snug. I would suggest sizing up two band sizes and one cup size. I am wearing a 2x in the Adriana Bikini, which is my usual size, but the panties run a bit small. I would suggest sizing up one size.
Tie Waist Dress of My Dreams
I had a vision. I wanted a blood orange / mandarin red dress that was flowy in the sleeves and hugged every curve just right (bonus points if it was a wrap dress or had a tie waist). I vowed that if I found a dress like this, I would live in it this summer. My friends probably thought I was crazy when they asked me “Where is this dress from?” and I told them, “Oh, it’s in my head and I have yet to find it.” But after searching tirelessly for the right color and fit, I found TWO dresses that measured up to my tall order.
The one I’m wearing today is from Simply Be. The second I saw this Knot Front Dress, I got so geeked. It was everything I waned in a summer dress—and let’s keep in mind that color is not in my vocabulary or wardrobe so I am making HUGE strides here guys! The fit is so flattering and perfectly curve hugging even though the front of the dress is rather flowy. The wrap style and the tie waist give this dress the ultimate cool girl look. I’M OBSESSED. If you love the dress, get 30% OFF WITH THIS CODE: SIMPLYBE54. I also bought this Ellie Kimono Sleeve Tie Waist Wrap Dress from Boohoo—which is pretty much a dead ringer for the Knot Front Dress—because I wanted a shorter crop on the dress since the Simple Be dress was a little on the long side (and I’m a little on the short side. Heh.) I always get a little sad when summer comes around because let’s be honest, summer can be hell for a thick chick/ faty/ fluffy/ full figured woman like myself. So I really needed a dress that was going to get me excited for the upcoming season.
If you are also craving a dress in this color, I have included a bunch of wrap / bell sleeve / tie waist dresses in the shop widget below! Summer, where you at, though?
SIZING INFO: I am wearing a size 16 in the Knot Front Dress, which is my usual size, and the dress fits perfectly! I ordered a size 16 in the Ellie Kimono Sleeve Tie Waist Wrap Dress from Boohoo, and I definitely could have sized up because it is SUPER short! I may feature it on the blog later in summer, and I may not! Stay tuned!






























































