I have been dropping little confidence tips on the blog lately! Have you been keeping up? Somedays turning on my confidence is as easy as flipping a light switch, and other days it’s not that simple. Lately, a sure-fire way for me to feel an instant rush of confidence has been to sport lingerie around my apartment or get dressed up just for me. I have a couple of different looks that I reach for when I need a sexy confidence boost. Parfait Lingerie’s Adriana Unlined Babydoll in Black paired with the Adriana Bikini is one of my favorites to lounge around in because it’s comfortable, but still makes me feel like a vixen.
Where does your confidence come from?
You may be searching back to the early traces of fearlessness you felt as a child, or maybe a pivotal moment you recently had that encouraged you to accept and love yourself. Through the years of my journey through self-love, I’ve learned that the perception we have our bodies starts way before we are even brought into the world. Our mothers, grandmothers, and great grandmothers have paved a way for us and, most times, have directly influenced how we view ourselves. Growing up, my mom was always supportive of me and wanted nothing but the best for her daughter. My parents put me into sports, encouraged me to live a healthy life (even if that meant being the food police here and there), and gave me the best advice they could. As I became a young adult, and eventually, started a life of my own, I realized that my parent’s remarks about my body and how I should eat still rang loudly in my head, influencing my own perception of my body. When I noticed these voices, I became a little resentful toward my parents, as body image is something I struggle with on a daily basis. But what helped me overcome that resentment was recognizing that my parents were not only my parents, but that they were their own individuals with their own desires and perspectives. As a child, I had a front row seat to my mother’s journey of accepting her body. She was a mother of two with her own battles, dreams, and goals, and aside from the time she spent with us, she worked full time—and then some. I can’t imagine that it was easy raising me and my brother, let alone taking time to appreciate herself. I emulated my mom and the way she spoke about her body because I looked up to her. While I have outgrown that perception, I have tried to help her grow, too. We talk about our bodies a lot, and it’s not always an easy breezy walk in the park—there are still things we don’t understand or accept. But as a woman who has found love within herself and for her reflection, I try to model that to my mom to inspire her to embrace herself, too.
Do you have someone in your life who projects their own insecurities onto you? Or someone who would greatly benefit from seeing someone like them be confident? Maybe it’s you who needs someone to model confidence to them…and that’s okay. No matter where you are at on your confidence journey, start by looking to yourself as a person who embodies confidence and embraces change. It may sound like a difficult task, but I have created a guide and workbook to help you build confidence step by step, every day. You can download this free guide at BeYourOwnGoals.com. This guide will help you build a positive affirmations list that is completely customized to you and your journey. You will also get a look my very own list of affirmations that I recite to myself every day before I leave my apartment. These affirmations help me create and take charge of my own narrative, confidence, and emotions.
It’s important to remember that before we help others, we must help ourselves.
SIZING INFO:I am wearing a Size 42D in the Adriana Unlined Babydoll in Black, which is one cup size larger than my usual size, and the teddy fits pretty snug. I would suggest sizing up two band sizes and one cup size. I am wearing a 2x in the Adriana Bikini, which is my usual size, but the panties run a bit small. I would suggest sizing up one size.